I never really thought much about being a father before my wife and I started trying to conceive. Sure, I had a general idea of what being a father meant and all the responsibilities it would entail. I even had some ideas as to how I would handle certain situations and stages when our children came to them. But no matter how much you’ve thought about it, read about it, and heard about it, you can’t truly understand fatherhood until you’ve actually become a father.
While I’ve written before about what I hope to accomplish as a father such as our parenting mission statement and things I hope my son will say about his father, being a father isn’t only about the responsibilities. There are a lot of great experiences and really fun times. Our son is only a toddler, so I know I’ll come up with more of these as time goes on but I’ve already found a number of perks to being a dad.
- When I come home from work and walk through the door, our little boy’s face lights up with the biggest smile
- Moms are great for cuddling and being loved on, but when our little boy wants to do some serious playing he knows to come to daddy
- Dad gets to take care of everything insect-related, from killing a spider in the house to spraying an in-ground nest of yellow jackets. (This isn’t entirely special to dad’s, but to being a guy in general)
- Hearing your child say “da-da” for the first time… and then hearing them say it over and over again
- Putting your child to bed, then standing in the doorway for a minute or two and watching how peacefully they sleep
- Being there when your child bumps their head, falls down, etc. and they come running to you… because they know you’ll make it better
- Being so proud when your child learns new things
I know there are more, but you get the idea. Being a dad can be a tough job with a lot of pressure (though being a mom is just as tough), but the perks definately make it worthwhile.
What are some perks to being a dad that I left out? Or if you’re a mom, what are some perks to being a mom?